Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Goodbye granny


Merry Christmas to all of you. I don't think I'll be on line tomorrow to wish you all a happy joyous day.

So ... this week I took daughter to the bone specialist ... she does have a hair line crack in her elbow still but she no longer needs the sling. He believes that if she is just careful with her activity for the next few weeks she will continue to heal. She doesn't have any pain at all so that's good news.

My brother came over yesterday ... weird cause he doesn't visit much. Anyway, he came over for marital advice. He & his wife are having problems again. He was contemplating leaving her but didn't want to leave his boys behind. Hubby & I talked him into going home & talking it through with his wife. He's a grown man & needs to be grown up ... there's no more walking away when things don't go your way. Besides ... it's Christmas ... no one needs that on the brain at this time of the year. I haven't heard from him but I'm hoping that all goes well. I'd like to see the twins but I sure don't won't to drop in during their problems.

Hubby's tooth has been hurting him lately but he's the typical guy ... won't do anything about it until the pain is so great that he can't stand to do anything. Well, I told him to call the dentist & hope that they could get him in. I knew it was a long shot with it being Christmas eve but ... he called ... they don't open until Monday morning. Hate that he's in pain but darn it ... that's what he gets for waiting until the pain is almost unbearable. Ya know?

Anyway, when he got ready to call the doctors he used my phone because I had the number already programed in ... he noticed that my dad had made a call about 12 after midnight. As soon as I heard that I knew what the call was all about. My granny had passed away. So I called dad & sure enough ... she's gone. She passed away at about 10 after 12 this morning. We were all hoping she would make it passed Christmas so we wouldn't have to think about her death at this time but she just couldn't hold out any longer. All her kids are together planning for the funeral ... sounds like their going to do it this Saturday. We're not going!

I told dad we couldn't go because hubby had to work but it was not the truth. I'm not going cause when it all boils down to the nitty gritty ... she's not my blood grandmother. I love my dad & most of his family but in the end I know that he is my step dad & none of those people are my blood. I wasn't very close to my granny either. She was a crass old woman who I always felt took great pleasure in putting me down. The only time I felt she approved of me is when I got married right out of high school ... I was very small & for my granny if you weren't physically fit then you were just a slob who would never amount to anything. Isn't that sad? I know that's just the way she was but it always hurt! Of course she was never this way with her blood grandchildren only those of us who had married in to the family. My step sister is much heavier than me but she was the light of grannies eye ... doesn't matter that she was big into drugs and alcohol when she was younger ... doesn't matter that she a baby when she had her baby ... I've lived the straight & narrow life for the most part but never got her approval. So why should I go to the funeral?

With all of this said I would like to say goodbye to granny. I loved her because she is my (step) dad's mother but I didn't like her very much. May she rest in peace and have no more pain. May the family's heart heal and remember the loving side.

Oh ... we had another death in our family Monday night ... my granny's sisters SIL hung himself. No one really knows why he took his life but yup ... 2 family members in less than a week.

My dad has been more a part of my life then my own mother so it's for that reason that I don't call him step dad very often.


Hollie said...

I'll be praying for everything that's going on in your household. Have a Merry Christmas.

Lisa said...

Awwwww Emmi, I am so sorry to hear your grandma was'nt nice to you, you are a beautiful and kind person and I hope you never believe the ugly mean words your grandma said, Big Hugs to you, If you need me I'm here for you, Love Ya Lisa

Chris/cacklinrosie101 said...

It seems like so many die right before the holidays. I had a step grandma. It was the only grandma I knew. It was my dad's stepmother. I loved her dearly but she never quite treated the step grandchildren like her own two blood granddaughters. I didn't go to her viewing when she died and feel guilty but it was just too darned awkward because of how she treated my dad after my real grandpa died. I will keep you all in my prayers. Big HUGS

Allison said...

Sorry you are going through all of this at this time of year especially. Sounds like there is a lot of pain there and I do hope you are able to let it go and have a nice Christmas Emmi. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Luv ya!

Melissa said...

so sorry about the deaths in the family, specially so close to Christmas..I hope u will still be able to enjoy Christmas day.

Sharon said...

I understand your reasons for not going...I have real family members like that. So sorry to hear of the bad news so close to Christmas. I do hope that you can have a wonderful Christmas!!

Missie said...

I'm sorry for the death in the family!

Hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas!

ADM DESIGN'S said...

Sorry about the deaths in the family
Hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas

Terri said...

So sorry about the deaths in your thoughts and prayers are with your family...

I do hope you have had a Merry Christmas..


Lisa said...

Emmi, When I was checking the TV Guide tonight I noticed that For Warrick will be repeated next Thursday at 9:00 p.m. on 1/1/ 09 so you will have a second chance to see it again, Love Ya Lisa

Arriel said...

Sorry to hear about you losses. Hope you enjoyed your Christmas!

Maria said...

Sorry to hear about your losses. Don't really know what elese to say?
Wishing you nice Holidays.
Hugs, Maria